Hey, hi, hello!!
How’s everyone doing on this fine day?? I have to work a show this week so that’s what’s on my agenda for the next 6 nights!
Okay, so I know this happened awhile ago, but I gotta say something….
Can we just talk about Lady Gaga at the Superbowl for a sec?! I mean, YES GIRL. The whole time I was watching I kept thinking, ‘God, what I wouldn’t give to be a backup dancer on that stage right now….’ Who knows, right?
I was also so happy when I saw her wearing that first outfit that showed her stomach. I feel like it was a great reminder for all of us, especially women, that you’re allowed to have a stomach and still be KILLING IT onstage. You don’t have to have a six-pack to be a superstar.
Speaking of stomachs and bodies, her performance made me think of how I used to feel about seeing other bodies in a dance class or anywhere else I would go. I constantly compared myself to others and it hindered my performance in class.
Her abs look more toned than mine.
Her arm muscles are more defined.
Her leg goes higher than mine. Why can’t I look like that?!
She looks like an athlete…should I look like that too? I was so afraid of messing up, looking stupid, and having everyone else remember me for that. But honestly, one day I just STOPPED looking at everyone else and focused on me. The comparison game doesn’t help anyone! It used to be so bad during my freshman and sophomore year. I used to see the girl on the treadmill next to me and feel bad for walking a bit while she was sprinting. I wondered if I should be going to extra dance classes on the weekends to improve my extension height. I watched the others in class and put myself down for messing up a little bit while they nailed it.
I grew up being placed in the back line of every recital dance because I wasn’t tall and I didn’t have an ethereal-looking “ballerina body.” So I automatically assumed that this made me a “bad dancer”, right? WRONG!
Bottom line: I used to base a lot of my self-worth on how I measured up against other women. Terrible, right? One day, I just decided to stop comparing myself to others because I wanted to stop putting myself down. Once I was conscious of my judginess, I realized I was also putting other women down in the process.
When I remember the things that used to think about, I was disgusted: “Well, she’s fitter than me, but she has no butt.” Or, “At least I don’t look like that.”
Honestly, it’s embarrassing to admit.
However, I changed my way of thinking and started to adopt a “you-go-girl” attitude. I cheered on the girl who did that extra pirouette in ballet class. I high-fived the one who held her balance longer than the last time. I also tried not to feel threatened at the girl who stayed after class to do a quick ab workout for her already chiseled midsection…
WHY OF COURSE!
So, if you wanna hear my lovely voice and hear me talk more about body comparisons and other fun stuff, head on over to Emily’s blog and check out my feature! 🙂
Don’t forget to love YOURSELF.
Lots of love is being sent your way. XO. ❤
Now tell me…
- Have you struggled with body-comparing before?
- Any Valentine’s Day plans?