Hey all. ?
Happy Monday!
It’s been hot hot hot over here, so what do you think my first instinct was…?
Turn on the oven and bake things. *slaps forehead*.
But hey, those brownies were SOOO worth the heat! I can’t complain either, I HATE being cold so I’m enjoying this weather as long as I can. Also, summer needs to slow down. It’s my last week home before I head to Boston for 3 weeks!
Wahoooooo!!
So the other day my boss brought all of the front desk people some soft serve from an ice cream place around the corner. My first thought was “OMG ICE CREAM” but my next thought was to immediately take a picture and post it on Instagram.
However, I didn’t. And there’s a reason.
If you remember me talking about the Happiness Hour Podcast last week, this was something that one of the hosts said. She was out eating an ice cream cookie sandwich with her boyfriend and was in the middle of taking a picture to post to her Instagram. Her boyfriend looked up at her and said, “hey, you know you don’t always have to prove to people that you’re eating and recovering. You’re doing this for YOU, so don’t worry about what other people think!”
Then something popped into my brain about why I used to love posting any indulgent food I was eating during the beginning of my recovery, or when I was still getting used to eating more and not thinking about food as much. I think I wanted to make sure that everyone KNEW I was trying to make a positive change in my life.
Hayley said,
You’re doing it for yourself, for your own life, you don’t always need to prove stuff to these people that aren’t living your life.
Georgie said,
How much do you show of what your recovery looks like? Obviously you want to help people feel normal and validated, but you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone. So where is that line?
Is that really the key when it comes to recovery?
Trust me, I LOVED showing others (and I still do) that oatmeal breakfasts don’t have to be boring. That’s kind of how I got into the whole oatmeal thing. I also liked it at first because it kept me accountable, but then I realized that I was posting all of these oatmeal photos or pictures of my food for the wrong reason. I felt like I HAD to post them because people would be worried about me if I didn’t show that I was eating more. And you know what?
That’s when I relapsed.
Then there came a point this past year where I stopped posting pictures of my food on Instagram for awhile, and I’m glad I did. I needed to step back and ask myself why I felt it was necessary to do it every single day. Was I doing it because I wanted to or was I doing it because it was just another thing to “cross off my recovery list?”
Don’t get me wrong, I still love posting pretty pictures of my food on Instagram, but NOW I know I’m doing it because I sincerely want to and want to promote my blog.
When you want to change something about yourself, do you automatically worry about what other people will think?
In the long run, no one else really knows what’s best for you except YOU.
You are enough right NOW. You have nothing to prove.
Care less about who you are to others and more about who you are to yourself.
Now tell me…
- When’s the last time you proved something to YOURSELF?
- Do you worry about how you appear to others?
BE WELL!!!
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